Joy Jot #2 I’m the hero, you’re welcome!

20 November 2023

Dear Friend,

When I start working with clients, one of the 4 tips I give them is — Observe yourself. Become very curious.

This ability to observe yourself non-judgmentally, will help you unlock the changes you want in your life.

• Why do you behave in a certain way with a family member, what are you trying to accomplish?

• When you are sad or frustrated, what thoughts came to mind?

• What do you want in your life? Will your current behaviors get you where you want to go?

• When you see something one way, can you see it another way

When I was twelve years old, I got glasses for the first time. I noticed I had a hard time seeing the writing on the board and I must have told my mom I couldn’t see very well because she took me to the eye doctor and I ended up with glasses (and braces) going into junior high. Ha, ha. I’m getting side-tracked here. We can discuss the delights of junior high a different time…

When I put on my new glasses for the first time, on the car ride home, I noticed the leaves on the trees and the crisp outlines of the houses. How blessed I was to live in such a beautiful world I could now see clearly!

We all put on glasses sometimes that change the way we see — sunglasses, 3-D glasses, reading glasses.

May I suggest you consider putting on another pair of glasses — HERO glasses.

It is so easy to feel like we are victims in our lives — incessantly cleaning the kitchen, meeting work deadlines, or helping children do homework. These repeat tasks are especially draining and it is easy to blame the people creating the messes or the circumstances for our pain and frustration. We also may feel like we have to do these things.

When I put on my victim glasses, I say things to myself like, “I’m the only one that ever picks up around here, why won’t people help me? I don’t want to do this anymore.” This talk shrinks me. I feel trapped. I give my power to other people and things that happen to me. Because of this….fill in the blank…I feel sad or frustrated.

When I put on my HERO glasses, I say things to myself like, “I want to clean this up because I enjoy a clean kitchen. I’ll ask my kids to help with this job later today. I’m choosing to do this right now. Look at me, I’ll killing this task. Dang it everyone….

I’m the hero! You’re welcome. It’s a good thing I’m here.

Listen to me—You are the hero! It’s a good thing you’re here.

Now put on your hero glasses, go kill it!

Have a great day!

Amy